Overwhelm is not a fatality
OK, you are completely overwhelmed! You have no idea what you should be focusing on first, and you are busy, busy, busy… probably to prove to yourself that you are doing all it takes to move forward.
Let’s be clear, there is no one fit all solutions because we are all different and what works for me might not work for you. That being said, there are some very basic things you can implement. The truth is that most of the time you are the one standing in your own way (like I am the one standing in mine). I’m not going to say that it is easy but once you start implementing the tips I’m giving you, and once you start seeing the positive impact these changes will have on your life, you are going to love your new life!
Start with your “Why”
To be clear what your priorities are you first need to know what your larger life priorities are.
Have you ever given it a thought? Have you taken the time to step back and reflect what your higher purpose and goals in life are? If you haven’t, now is the time to start. Here is mine as an example:
“I believe that women can help shape a better world. That is why I’m on a mission to help women entrepreneurs design the thriving business that will sustain the lifestyle they desire thus being a role model of success and fulfillment for those around them”.
Found yours? Now post it somewhere where you will see it often enough to be reminded of it regularly.
Make self-care your priority
If you are like most women I know (and that is including myself), you tend to put others’ needs first. If you have time left for yourself, and let’s be clear most of the time there is none, you cannot even enjoy it because you feel guilty doing so. The result is that you are completely stressed out, overwhelmed and frustrated. I love to remind my clients of what we are being instructed on a plane: “in case of a depressurization in the cabin put your oxygen mask first” (and then only help those around you, that is including our children). How can you be of any use to others if you are falling apart?
I know what you are going to say: “I don’t have the time”, but be aware that at some point you are not only becoming less productive but you are even becoming counter-productive. So what is the point? Take a deep breath and take time for yourself, all those around you will be grateful for the result!
You don’t have to be perfect
Even if I recommend the “Wonder Women Pose” to my clients (read more about it here) that does not mean you have to be a Wonder Woman!
The first thing I recommend you do is to have a closer look at the various roles you are having in your life (a mother, a lover, a friend, a colleague…). Then for each of those roles find your “Why”. As we did in the first step, knowing what motivates you in each of those areas is what will allow you to be clear about what to accept or not in each role.
There are many more things to help you overcome overwhelm, but these three are foundational!
Read part 2 of this topic here
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