You seemed to have it all!
The successful business or career, the family, the friends, the house (although, if you are completely honest with yourself, it wasn’t really fulfilling, something was nagging at you, something was missing) …

That is when life chose to knock you down: you lost someone dear to your heart, had to fight a life-threatening disease, left a toxic relationship, faced depression, lost your job or went through bankruptcy. Everything you had fell into pieces, and you may even have lost everything in the process! There you are, feeling lost and completely disoriented in what seems to be a bottomless well.

Believe me, I know what you are going through, as a matter of fact, the only thing I haven’t experienced myself from the above list is facing a serious disease. But I also know that there is a way to change that and that it is possible to make things happen again in your life and business. I know, because I have done it for myself!

But, let’s revert to you. In a situation like that you only have two choices:

1) look at your circumstances and continue to believe that the odds are against you.  As a result nothing will ever change, or,

2) reconsider all your choices in life and business and see this situation as an amazing opportunity to reinvent yourself!

 Let’s take a closer look at the second option:

Before life hit you, you were highly driven; you obviously had the skills and the needed competencies. You knew how to make things work for you. That hasn’t changed, so there is no reason for you not to succeed again! The thing is, back then you were missing a few pieces of the equation. You were not connecting the dots between you, your life and your business and that has ultimately hit you in the face.

 What it would take to for you to be successful again but this time with room for more meaning, more happiness and fulfillment?

Step 1 – Clarify who you are and what is important to you 
Caught as you were in your rat race to success, you weren’t connected to what was true to you. Now is the time to step back and reflect. Time to think about your values and your needs as well as your vision for your life and business. What would that change for you?

Step 2 – Clear what stands in the way of your success and fulfillment
Take a closer look at your mindset and at the lens through which you are viewing your life. How do you relate to money and success? What do you need to change to be fully in charge and make the conscious choices that will lead to your success and fulfillment?

Step 3 – Put yourself back at the center of your life 
If you are like most women I know, there is little to no room for yourself in your life. Now that you have identified your needs and values, what are the boundaries you can implement to ensure they are respected? How can you make your self-care such a priority that it has a positive impact on your relationship with yourself and others?

Step 4 – Reassess and up-level your business
Look at your current business model (or the one you had thought of if you haven’t set up your business yet). Who do YOU want to work with? What value do you bring to them and what services can you offer to ensure that you no longer trade time for dollars? What business model do you need to implement to ensure your business can sustain the life you desire?

Step 5 – Don’t let your business rule you and your life 
A business is a business, not an expensive hobby. You need to handle it as such, but if you don’t pay attention, you will quickly re-create the rat race you run away from when you were in corporate. What systems and tools can you implement to ensure you stay focused and on top of your business? What can you delegate so you spend your time only on activities where you add value?

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Overwhelm is not a fatality

OK, you are completely overwhelmed! You have no idea what you should be focusing on first, and you are busy, busy, busy… probably to prove to yourself that you are doing all it takes to move forward.

Let’s be clear, there is no one fit all solutions because we are all different and what works for me might not work for you. That being said, there are some very basic things you can implement. The truth is that most of the time you are the one standing in your own way (like I am the one standing in mine). I’m not going to say that it is easy but once you start implementing the tips I’m giving you, and once you start seeing the positive impact these changes will have on your life, you are going to love your new life!

Start with your “Why”

To be clear what your priorities are you first need to know what your larger life priorities are.
Have you ever given it a thought? Have you taken the time to step back and reflect what your higher purpose and goals in life are? If you haven’t, now is the time to start. Here is mine as an example:

“I believe that women can help shape a better world. That is why I’m on a mission to help women entrepreneurs design the thriving business that will sustain the lifestyle they desire thus being a role model of success and fulfillment for those around them”.

Found yours? Now post it somewhere where you will see it often enough to be reminded of it regularly.

Make self-care your priority

If you are like most women I know (and that is including myself), you tend to put others’ needs first. If you have time left for yourself, and let’s be clear most of the time there is none, you cannot even enjoy it because you feel guilty doing so. The result is that you are completely stressed out, overwhelmed and frustrated. I love to remind my clients of what we are being instructed on a plane: “in case of a depressurization in the cabin put your oxygen mask first” (and then only help those around you, that is including our children). How can you be of any use to others if you are falling apart?
I know what you are going to say: “I don’t have the time”, but be aware that at some point you are not only becoming less productive but you are even becoming counter-productive. So what is the point? Take a deep breath and take time for yourself, all those around you will be grateful for the result!

You don’t have to be perfect

Even if I recommend the “Wonder Women Pose” to my clients (read more about it here) that does not mean you have to be a Wonder Woman!
The first thing I recommend you do is to have a closer look at the various roles you are having in your life (a mother, a lover, a friend, a colleague…). Then for each of those roles find your “Why”. As we did in the first step, knowing what motivates you in each of those areas is what will allow you to be clear about what to accept or not in each role.

There are many more things to help you overcome overwhelm, but these three are foundational!

Read part 2 of this topic here

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What luxury really means

Over the last few days I’ve kept bumping into the word “Luxury”…
Although I know what it means to me, I thought that it might be worth elaborating on it a bit to find out what it means to you.

You see, for me, luxury is directly linked to the notion of self-worth and has nothing to do per se with any monetary value.

Anything that gives me the feeling of being exceptional – i.e. being worth it – is luxury to me.
Luxury can be hiding in very small details, it is an attitude, a mindset that is linked to mindfulness, because if you are not mindful of what is, how can you appreciate what you are having and what you are gifting yourself with?

Luxury can of course be a beautiful and very expensive Chanel handbag or Louboutin pair of shoes, but beforemost luxury is taking the time to appreciate what is:

Luxury is the beautiful flowers you bought for yourself or that you choose carefully in your garden,
Luxury is relaxing in a scented bath while listening to music you like,
Luxury is taking the time to enjoy the meal you are sharing with people you love,
Luxury is a picnic but with champagne (in a beautiful glass of course, not a plastic cup),
Luxury is drinking a minimum of 2 litres of water every day because my body will thank me for it, but it is also drinking wine when I feel like it,
Luxury is being grateful for all the good, the love and the beauty I am bringing into my life,
Luxury is filling my life with random acts of kindness,
Luxury is feeling beautiful because that is what makes you beautiful,
Luxury is stepping into your power to be who you are meant to be,
Luxury is being elegant in worn out jeans because of the confident way you are moving and filling the room with your presence,

Luxury is that French “Je ne sais quoi” that French women have that encompasses all of the above and so much more.

Luxury is being and feeling worth it!

So, how are you bringing luxury into your life?

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Routines to help you shine

As your life has unfolded a lot of negative emotions such as fear, shame, guilt have shaped who you are today and quite often that has translated into you feeling small, and hiding away from who you truly are and deserve to be.

Start by (re)introducing a few routines in your day so that progressively you can start reconnecting to your essence and allow your brilliance to be seen.

Express your gratitude daily
Tell the people around you that you appreciate them. Give thanks for the food you eat and the roof that you sleep under. Smile. Gratitude magnifies your feelings of goodwill, helping you stay focused on the good stuff.

Move your body
Sweating and moving for just 20 minutes a day has been clinically shown to improve your mood & boost your health. Try a yoga class, ride your bike around town, or go for a swim, and you’ll easily chase away the grumps.

Meditate every morning
Spending time in silence reconnects you with your source of self-awareness, self-assuredness & happiness. It’s also been shown to greatly reduce stress & improve communication.

What will YOU do to shine a little brighter TODAY